Our Hotwives

hwlurker88 wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 19, 2025 2:21 pm

If it is something you want to move quicker with, you could snoop around in there the next time you two are in the room together. Then just play it like it's really hot when you find them and beg her to tell you about them. Otherwise, those condoms will probably never be able to be brought up. Just a thought

The condom box was in her bedroom at her mom's place, not her current spot. I don't know the next time I will be visiting her mom as she lives a ways away. The only way I will find out about the the condoms is if I ask her directly. In my last post, I meant like piecing together details in what she tells me. Like if she slept with this dude, lets say in the summer of 2023 and he was well hung, I could assume the condoms were for him. Although I am curious about who used those condoms and it turns me on, it's not something I am 100% dying to know.

hwlurker88 wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 19, 2025 2:21 pm

If it is something you want to move quicker with, you could snoop around in there the next time you two are in the room together. Then just play it like it's really hot when you find them and beg her to tell you about them. Otherwise, those condoms will probably never be able to be brought up. Just a thought

I agree with hwlurker... Some woman are afraid to relate their experiences with former lovers because they are not sure if those stories might upset her current man. In the past I've used the strategy of showing my wife how much her past experiences excite me. She finally realized I would never become jealous- quite to the contrary! They made my little cock hard- I even started masturbating myself as she started telling me all the juicy details! She realized her experiences really DID excite me and there wouldn't be any unpleasant fallout from telling me everything,

One word of caution I'm sure you are already aware of... If she is not comfortable coughing up all the juicy details, just let it pass without pressuring her,,, and revisit the topic another time. Very GENTLE persistence worked well for me. Good luck, brother!

HenryB12 wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 19, 2025 2:57 pm

hwlurker88 wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 19, 2025 2:21 pm

If it is something you want to move quicker with, you could snoop around in there the next time you two are in the room together. Then just play it like it's really hot when you find them and beg her to tell you about them. Otherwise, those condoms will probably never be able to be brought up. Just a thought

The condom box was in her bedroom at her mom's place, not her current spot. I don't know the next time I will be visiting her mom as she lives a ways away. The only way I will find out about the the condoms is if I ask her directly. In my last post, I meant like piecing together details in what she tells me. Like if she slept with this dude, lets say in the summer of 2023 and he was well hung, I could assume the condoms were for him. Although I am curious about who used those condoms and it turns me on, it's not something I am 100% dying to know.

That's fair. The condoms themselves are a pretty small item in the grand scheme of the things you want to know from her. But they are the perfect conversation piece to segue into finding out those answers. Perhaps you should by some XXL condoms and attempt to use them with her. While you attempt to put it on, you could curse yourself for buying the wrong size. You both could get a good laugh at how they don't fit you dick and you could use that as an opening to ask her if any of her prior lovers could fill that condom.
Just throwing out various ideas for you.

TinyBoyDick wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 19, 2025 3:27 pm

hwlurker88 wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 19, 2025 2:21 pm

If it is something you want to move quicker with, you could snoop around in there the next time you two are in the room together. Then just play it like it's really hot when you find them and beg her to tell you about them. Otherwise, those condoms will probably never be able to be brought up. Just a thought

I agree with hwlurker... Some woman are afraid to relate their experiences with former lovers because they are not sure if those stories might upset her current man. In the past I've used the strategy of showing my wife how much her past experiences excite me. She finally realized I would never become jealous- quite to the contrary! They made my little cock hard- I even started masturbating myself as she started telling me all the juicy details! She realized her experiences really DID excite me and there wouldn't be any unpleasant fallout from telling me everything,

One word of caution I'm sure you are already aware of... If she is not comfortable coughing up all the juicy details, just let it pass without pressuring her,,, and revisit the topic another time. Very GENTLE persistence worked well for me. Good luck, brother!

Yeah, some of the advice I've gotten the most on here is to clearly show her how much it turns me on. And also, don't be pushy. Let her come to be comfortable at her own pace. Women only hear that they shouldn't make a man jealous with past sexual experiences under any circumstance, so again, showing her my enjoyment and making sure she's good are paramount. Thanks for the well wishes.

hwlurker88 wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 19, 2025 9:26 pm

HenryB12 wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 19, 2025 2:57 pm

hwlurker88 wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 19, 2025 2:21 pm

If it is something you want to move quicker with, you could snoop around in there the next time you two are in the room together. Then just play it like it's really hot when you find them and beg her to tell you about them. Otherwise, those condoms will probably never be able to be brought up. Just a thought

The condom box was in her bedroom at her mom's place, not her current spot. I don't know the next time I will be visiting her mom as she lives a ways away. The only way I will find out about the the condoms is if I ask her directly. In my last post, I meant like piecing together details in what she tells me. Like if she slept with this dude, lets say in the summer of 2023 and he was well hung, I could assume the condoms were for him. Although I am curious about who used those condoms and it turns me on, it's not something I am 100% dying to know.

That's fair. The condoms themselves are a pretty small item in the grand scheme of the things you want to know from her. But they are the perfect conversation piece to segue into finding out those answers. Perhaps you should by some XXL condoms and attempt to use them with her. While you attempt to put it on, you could curse yourself for buying the wrong size. You both could get a good laugh at how they don't fit you dick and you could use that as an opening to ask her if any of her prior lovers could fill that condom.
Just throwing out various ideas for you.

Exactly. The bigger condom discovery re-ignited my fantasies, but they aren't that important. I'll keep your idea in mind as a maybe, but if she's comfortable enough to answer a question like "would anyone from your past fill out this size condom?" we would probably be at a comfortability level of me knowing some past guy's sizes. I do appreciate people leaving potential ideas that may have worked for them or think could work for my situation so thank you.

A bit late on this info but maybe it'll serve you well in the future...shortly after you enter a hot tub 100 degrees or hotter - I keep mine at 103 - your sperm die. No need for condom.

Henry, c'mon...what is the big deal if you just go and ask her.

Whomever was using the large condoms- may have simply bought larger ones because they aren't as tight & constricting forcing things to go softer easier ... def not unheard of- simply just another another swingin dick guy, hoopla all in your mind.... here's a popular opinion - just speak the hell up with her.

Sorry it has been awhile. I'm on spring break right now.

Guhunkadorn wrote: ↑

Thu Mar 20, 2025 4:44 am

A bit late on this info but maybe it'll serve you well in the future...shortly after you enter a hot tub 100 degrees or hotter - I keep mine at 103 - your sperm die. No need for condom.

That's interesting. I didn't know that. I probably learned that in school sometime but forgot. If we do it again, I won't use a condom.

Tryagain wrote: ↑

Thu Mar 20, 2025 6:25 am

Henry, c'mon...what is the big deal if you just go and ask her.

Watchinu69 wrote: ↑

Thu Mar 20, 2025 8:27 am

Whomever was using the large condoms- may have simply bought larger ones because they aren't as tight & constricting forcing things to go softer easier ... def not unheard of- simply just another another swingin dick guy, hoopla all in your mind.... here's a popular opinion - just speak the hell up with her.

Yeah, you guys are right. I've been real hesitant to push as I want her to be comfortable, but I think it's time to progress. We are both on spring break with different friends and she gets back on Friday, while I return this weekend. We've talked on the phone and I asked about the surprise and she heavily insinuated that it would be this weekend. I'll really start steering the conversation afterward towards her past.

Someone PMed me asking if I'd ask her about the condoms. 95% likelihood, no I won't. I found them by snooping around her room at her mom's house. Don't want her to not trust me, especially if we are getting into her past.

Ask her if she enjoys larger cocks!?!?!

Your patience is admirable, Henry. Love and relationship over kink. Don't let anyone push you into foolish impulsive pursuits. Give her room. Give her time.

She's a keeper. Treat her that way, just as you have been doing.

Fuck the condoms.

Best regards and wishes.

Watchinu69 wrote: ↑

Thu Mar 27, 2025 11:50 am

Ask her if she enjoys larger cocks!?!?!

I gotta feel out the vibe of how she is feeling while asking questions. While I'd like to know, I need to wait and see how she feels in the moment while responding and sharing basic details of her past sex life.

hornedhubby wrote: ↑

Thu Mar 27, 2025 7:33 pm

Your patience is admirable, Henry. Love and relationship over kink. Don't let anyone push you into foolish impulsive pursuits. Give her room. Give her time.

She's a keeper. Treat her that way, just as you have been doing.

Fuck the condoms.

Best regards and wishes.

Thanks. I really care about her/this relationship and don't wanna mess anything up. That's why I've been really patient and have been giving her time. I will continue to treat her great. Thanks for the well wishes.

It's happening. The surprise is happening tomorrow. We were having a normal facetime chat on the phone and at the end, as we were saying bye, she said, "I hope you're ready for the surprise tomorrow." Before I could say anything she hung up. She had this smirk on her face, purposefully teasing me, when the facetime screen faded away. I don't get back until tomorrow and I have a couple hour long car ride back to campus. So I'm gonna have to distract myself and not think about it the whole ride back. Which will be nearly impossible.

Already forgot what the surprise was- remind us what it was?

Excellent. Whatever it turns out to be, a sexy surprise is a special gift.

Confident you will enjoy it.

Best luck.

Whatever the surprise ends up being, enjoy it! I'm sure you already know this, but it has to be said. Whatever it is, praise her for it! Also, if the door cracks open for exploring ideas or fantasies you want to share, seize the day. Don't just wait for her to open the door completely on her own. Gently try to push it open yourself if she appears to be close to the right mood.
My wife praised me this morning for bringing fantasies and ideas to our relationship over the years that she said she would have never done (or even thought of) on her own. I basically took some small risks by gently pushing her. Baby steps. But slightly pushy baby steps.

Have fun!

Watchinu69 wrote: ↑

Sat Mar 29, 2025 2:26 pm

Already forgot what the surprise was- remind us what it was?

I mean, I'm not 100% sure because it's a surprise for me after all. She first brought up the idea of a surprise after the hot tub sex attempt. She said she was thinking about surprising me with one of my fantasies as she wants to reciprocate initiating new things. So, it could either be a blowjob she initiates while I'm watching sports or hearing about her past. Those were the two I told her about awhile ago (Post on Jan 30, 2025 at 10:37). The only sport I've been watching and has been a big part of my spring break is March Madness, but my buddies and I are heading back after the last game tomorrow. So unless she thinks I watch baseball, I'm thinking it will be about her past. Both hot, but obviously would prefer the latter.

hornedhubby wrote: ↑

Sat Mar 29, 2025 3:23 pm

Excellent. Whatever it turns out to be, a sexy surprise is a special gift.

Confident you will enjoy it.

Best luck.

Yeah. I hope it is amazing. Thanks for the luck.

hwlurker88 wrote: ↑

Sat Mar 29, 2025 3:55 pm

Whatever the surprise ends up being, enjoy it! I'm sure you already know this, but it has to be said. Whatever it is, praise her for it! Also, if the door cracks open for exploring ideas or fantasies you want to share, seize the day. Don't just wait for her to open the door completely on her own. Gently try to push it open yourself if she appears to be close to the right mood.
My wife praised me this morning for bringing fantasies and ideas to our relationship over the years that she said she would have never done (or even thought of) on her own. I basically took some small risks by gently pushing her. Baby steps. But slightly pushy baby steps.

Have fun!

Yeah, I have to clearly show her I enjoy it. Obviously, my dick will be showing signs, but positive verbal reinforcement will be key. I agree with you, if I see a chance to progress, I've got to be the one to go for it. Even if she is comfortable with discussing it, she will most likely be hesitant to "open the door." Hopefully, we get to where you and your wife are at. Baby steps and small risks.

Just a note to say hope the surprise is going great!

I'm sure he really appreciates the note ...

Watchinu69 wrote: ↑

Sun Mar 30, 2025 11:53 am

I'm sure he really appreciates the note ...

I’m sure everybody also appreciates your input.

Henry, enjoy the ride. Sure you’re in for a great few days. Even if it’s not what you would prefer in terms of fantasy (and my guess is it won’t be…), it’s one step closer to opening up to each other.

PS. Tried hot tub sex fully once and turned the temperature up too high. Absolutely destroyed any chance of anything happening. hot in theory, not so much when it happens. Just leave me alone to chill if I’m in a hot tub is what I’ve learnt with age!

I'm sure telling Henry to enjoy himself was a relief for him to hear...
ps shame you had water issues 🫵 that sure added allot to Henry's story !

Guhunkadorn wrote: ↑

Thu Mar 20, 2025 4:44 am

A bit late on this info but maybe it'll serve you well in the future...shortly after you enter a hot tub 100 degrees or hotter - I keep mine at 103 - your sperm die. No need for condom.

With all due respect, this is 100% not true.

Whenwillshe wrote: ↑

Sun Mar 30, 2025 6:35 pm

Guhunkadorn wrote: ↑

Thu Mar 20, 2025 4:44 am

A bit late on this info but maybe it'll serve you well in the future...shortly after you enter a hot tub 100 degrees or hotter - I keep mine at 103 - your sperm die. No need for condom.

With all due respect, this is 100% not true.

Honestly, I also highly doubt that to be true. I would not bet my future on such a theory. If you want to avoid pregnancy, then take precautions.

Thanks and yep, I was wrong in terms of temp and time. It's credibly reported that 30 min @ 102 degrees your swimmers are essentially wiped out, but less time and lower temp and your still very much a stud.

In the meantime I'm looking forward to your update.